One of the biggest gifts that has come from being a coach (outside of helping others) is that my whole idea of what is possible has shifted. My life is no longer about some employer picking me, deciding what my gifts are worth, or what I get the freedom to share.
That alone has made me so much less fearful about my life and taken the cap off what is possible for myself and others.
Getting laid off 2 years ago, I was so freakin scared and sad. I was afraid about money, afraid that I didn’t have anything special to share with the world, afraid about what life would look like on my own terms. I don’t know if I really trusted myself…and when coaches would talk to me about the power of investing in myself and trusting the journey, it sounded so foreign to me…no one had talked to me about that really ever.
Go get an education, get a job, and don’t question all of it too much. Oh, get married and have 2.5 kids by age 30. Then retire...that’s basically the script I heard. Do what’s safe.
So getting that “taken away” felt so scary. I did what I was told, I did the “safe thing” (minus the marriage and kids by 30 part) and it wasn’t so safe anyway. What else was there? It turns out so much freakin’ more. More than I could ever have dreamt of…lots of work, no doubt….I work hard at my business and have made a lot of sacrifices/choices to keep investing in myself and my education as a coach and to do the work I am called to do. But no one can ever take away my passion and my gifts. No “employer” holds the magic key or my pot of gold anymore.
I’m not saying it’s bad to work for someone else or everyone should be self-employed. I’m saying don’t buy into the false belief that an employer holds so much power over you and can give or take away your value. You have value always…ALWAYS!
The thing is, this isn’t just true with “job security”…it’s true with relationships of all kinds. It’s true in any situation where at some level you’re believing that something or some person has your “pot of gold” and if they take it away, somehow you won’t be as valuable, that your life won’t work without it/them.
It happens any time you give away your power, anytime you are in a “please pick me” kinda place and you aren’t being totally true to you or you see them as “better” than you. What I want you to know is that you always have your pot of gold…you always have value and worth and gifts to share. You were born to shine. Don’t buy into the lie that your brightness depends on “the other”. It does not. This will only keep you stuck, and keep you feeling dependent.
The truth is goodbyes, breakups, lay-offs, and endings can be a painful and a fearful time. Those feelings are normal. Grief, anger, confusion…all normal. But knowing that as you say goodbye you are leaving with your value, your gifts, your passion, your unique qualities, your heart and soul, your WORTH…well, then you know that the party we call Life didn’t stop. A new, amazing journey is coming your way and you, my friend, can hold your head up high through all of that.
(Written by me to you…inspired by a beautiful soul who just lost her job…I know how it feels and you will come out on top!)
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xoxo,
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